I’ve had insecurity problems for all my life on, for several reasons. The point is, that I recently discovered something that changed all my approach with myself and even my way of view myself, I would like to share it.
All happened a day when I was randomly thinking to my “ideal man“, I was thinking of what kind of man I would like him to be, building him in details, his appearance, his voice, his hearth, his mind, what he likes, what he practices as sport, what he eat, what he prefers and so on…really detailed! Ok ok I know… It’s incredibly stupid and pointless, but women sometimes do that, at least I do that!
While I was wondering on this I realized one thing, almost every characteristic I would like him to have, was mine!
This was a kind of shock for me, because as soon I realized this, I realized also I was pointless to keep have a bad relationship with myself, to keep underestimate me, if the characteristics I expect to find in the “man of my life”… are the same ones I have!
Of course I’m searching also for something more and different from myself, but this was my key milestone which made me realize I liked me, I liked the kind of person I am and I from that moment on, with this awareness I wanted to start immediately a new relationship with myself!
And by the way, the end of my last relationship taught me more than everything else that is very true that if YOU don’t love yourself first… how you could pretend that someone else does!